“Again and again I therefore admonish my students in Europe and America: Don’t aim at success — the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run — in the long-run, I say! — success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.” ~ Viktor Franklfrom Man’s Search for Meaning

This is another pathway for changing your early mental models by getting childlike aspirations out of the way so you can begin to actualize the real self. When Frankl talks about “greater than oneself” he is talking about the image of self based on early mental models from childhood. Your real power is in your undiscovered self which has been patiently waiting discovery all along. It is another way of doing the harder things. Your real self is your real power and it will emerge but not instantly: