You will never become a mature adult if you choose to remain unaware of your life as a child. Your childhood exists in you now and actively contributes to everything you see, perceive, think, feel or otherwise experience. The first step in building a skyscraper is to make sure the foundation can withstand the forces that it will have to sustain over time. As human beings we are fortunate because our foundations remain alive and capable of changing until the day we die. They only appear to be unchangeable with the able assistance of our defenses which help us maintain two important illusions: 1.that our mental models and beliefs mirror reality and must be accepted as unchangeable; and the even more dangerous corollary, 2. that our mental models and beliefs are close approximations of what is possible for us.