First, it is the realization that you see them as worthy objects per se and are genuinely interested in what they are communicating. Second, their mirror neurons are stimulated by your resonance. Third, they recognized, often at an unconscious level, that you are able to contribute to their self-understanding and personal mastery. What makes all of this possible is of course your own level of self-knowledge which shows in everything you do and say. The meta-communication transmitting along with everything your do and say is that “most of the impulses entering your brain make it all the way to the pre-frontal cortex.” In other words, you can be trusted to be competent and likely to have good intentions. That is detected, often outside of awareness, by everyone who has contact with you. It tacitly and often explicitly offers credible evidence of maturity. That’s using your brain in accordance with its elegant design!