We develop habits based on mental models (mostly tacit) established early in life that guide our readiness to respond to perceived situations in similar ways. The brain protects established habits by screening the information it allows into the system. The genuine pursuit of self-knowledge leads us to stimulate and develop areas of our brain that have the capacity to override prior learning. Self-knowledge is the necessary condition for disrupting the feedback loop that keeps our perception locked up in our past. Doing the harder thing and serenely bearing the pain of being displeasing to ourselves are the minimum commitments for real growth.