The reason that doing the harder thing is a pathway to changing our mental models is that staying on the more familiar road requires less effort and helps us to feel that we have not strayed too far from home. Even what we allow ourselves to remember from our early life is biased to preserve a familiar feeling about ourselves and avoid some chronically endured pain that we believe will overwhelm us in some frightening way. That is why making the commitment to discover and liberate our true self evokes resistance. Resistance often presents itself in ways that can easily trick us into relabeling our priorities. Procrastination may be one of the most common ways that resistance presents itself. Rationalization helps us to be less aware that we are running away from our real self and likely our true calling. Resistance seems to have signed a lifetime treaty with rationalization and the goal is to keep us from knowing and following our true purpose in life. Together they double-team us into staying in familiar territory but often at too high a cost; keeping our passion in check by relying on our outdated mental models. Doing the harder thing is a way of interfering with this daunting alliance. Simply said, making a habit of doing the harder thing is one of the better ways of “helping us to remember in order to be able to forget.” That is the cornerstone of inner freedom.




Bill Anton