Our feelings about ourselves as adults are created more by the general atmosphere and family attitudes in our early life than by a single traumatic event or experience. While these feelings are not unreasonable for us as children (What does he know of England who only England knows?) they tend to stick and are often experienced as unreasonable by us as “grown ups.” As adults we tend to relate to ourselves based on how we interpreted early parental and family imperatives and become the parent we had to ourselves. When you try to suppress or tame the inner child you engage in a battle that cannot be won. You can’t turn against yourself and have inner peace and security. That is why an important step to gaining self-knowledge is to start by “serenely bearing the pain of being displeasing to yourself.”