There are two important steps that must be taken on your road to genuine self-knowledge: The first is to recall your predominant feeling states as a child. The second is to recall your parent’s predominant attitudes towards you as a child. The reason this is so significant is because one of the most powerful variables in learning is modeling. We learn to model our parents attitudes towards us and these become our basic attitude towards ourselves. Without actively working to see and understand this more fully, we are essentially prisoners of a dated and limited view of our potential. The ways in which we limit ourselves are not obvious because experience is cumulative and determines how we encode new learning to conform to our existing mental models and beliefs. This alone can prevent us from seeing that we are living only a fraction of our potential and our feelings about ourselves are not objective and borrowed from our past. It is the liberation of our unrealized potential that makes the pursuit of self-knowledge one of the most meaningful things we can do in our lives. In the unexamined life, we are guided by prior learning based on early and mostly immature interpretations of experiences. Our mental models and beliefs are nascent guides and instruments used to calibrate and often determine our course in life. Those who decide not to raise this conundrum to the level of full consciousness are simultaneously choosing to live in a maimed horizon stripped of their highest and best possibilities. In essence, what you know will only struggle with what you don’t know if nourished by curiosity about your real self and a solid commitment to know your own truth.

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