The greatest damage that human beings do to themselves and others is the pretense of normality. In other words, defining themselves as much more limited than they truly are and creating a daily show for themselves and others that what they fear about themselves is not true. It isn’t, but you will never discover the real truth until you are willing to suffer the pain of “not knowing” and learn to live with ambiguity and the uncomfortable (sometimes intolerable) anxiety it creates. The primitive parts of our brain are wired to avoid the anxiety and stay the familiar course, while our frontal lobes dream of what we can become based on an inner knowing of who we truly are. Too many of us have learned to play it safe at the cost of our true selves and never discover the rapture of being fully alive.