Our brains are super computers whose default is to give priority to pursuing and achieving goals that have more to do with remembering from your past than what you could be focused on in your future. Maintaining a positive and realistic relationship with yourself moves you in the direction of re-calibration of your self-limiting beliefs and begins to free energy that can be applied to creating the life you dream about. What kind of child were you? Recalling what the prevailing attitudes of your parents were towards you is the first step. The second is to realize that you are relating to yourself in the same way at either conscious or sub-conscious levels. That is the unseen governor on realizing your full potential.