People who were over coerced as children have a particularly difficult time in leadership positions or those requiring them to rely on their own inner organization in their work. They seldom achieve what they are capable of as leaders, workers and family members. Their uniqueness and inner genius is never developed because their focus is outside themselves and they respond to external demands with the same passive resistance they learn as children. While the passive resistance in the form of dawdling and stalling has a survival purpose in the child’s life, it is a limiting if not paralyzing attribute in the adult. In childhood it offers “protection” of the child’s individual uniqueness without requiring him to defy his parent(s). Eventually however, the child of coercive parents who has not grown beyond the early belief system tends to relate to themselves in a parent-like fashion by placing overly coercive demands and requirements on themselves and responding to those self-generated demands by inaction of various forms.

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