Written by: William Anton, Ph. D.
Today is National Lazy Day. Although dedicated to those who do not feel like doing anything, it is unlikely that will really be the case. Unless you are allied to your truer self, the mind seeks to deny the present moment and even escape from it. It is often in the pauses of life that the silent parts of us are allowed into consciousness in a manner that does not imprison our awareness. If we make the decision to listen and observe, the day is likely to be anything but lazy.
National Lazy Day is a good time to reflect on our symptoms and complaints. What?! On one of the few lazy days I can enjoy? Yes, taking advantage of the pauses to reframe our pain can be a first step towards our truer selves and full engagement in the present. If early pain still lives in your mind and body, your mental models are in the service of your false self [an internal bully] who intimidates you into underestimating your true self. It gets you to frame your life and believe that the false self-image is the real you. As expressed by Eckhart Tolle, “the pain body doesn’t want you to observe it directly and see it for what it is. That is because, once you see it for what it is [a tormentor], it can no longer get away with pretending to be you.” We pay a huge price for the privilege of remaining ignorant.
Our early beliefs about ourselves are almost always underestimates which are protected by habits designed to prevent clarity about our true potential. We unknowingly avoid the light that could disrupt the magical system, and our beliefs remain unchallenged. The core of these early beliefs and mental models are what psychologist James Mann described as privately felt, rarely verbalized, present and chronically endured pain. In his words, “The pain is an important statement about how one feels and has always felt about the self.” The problem is that, over time, we construct life patterns that make all of this impossible to see. But, there are no lazy days, because there is no lasting peace.
How we manage chronically endured pain becomes our life. The pain body remains silent until it erupts into consciousness in response to triggers that call forth the silent dragon who spews its rage, unhappiness, boredom, or otherwise causes pain for ourselves and others.
Don’t let your pain body live through you. Too many find surrender easier than learning how to become a conscious bystander of their own thinking. They tacitly choose to live as a small fragment of the greater life for which they were designed. They opt for familiar pain rather than risking losing the familiar but maimed self.
Some relaxing day!
Quote from Business Success Through Self-Knowledge: “Knowing how our mind works aligns our perceptions and accompanying actions with reality.”